50 Things I’ve Learned Before 50

  1. You can read the same thing every year and gain something different each time because of your own growing soul and experience.
  2. Be the gatekeeper of your own mind – choose good things to look at, listen to, and watch.
  3. We’re told to follow our dreams, but dreams can be gauzy and overwhelming.  Instead, follow your curiosity.  (Elizabeth Gilbert)
  4. Drink a glass of water before you eat anything in the morning.
  5. There’s music everywhere.  Listen for it.
  6. Leave a piece of yourself behind for people who might want to discover it.  Write notes, make art, record your story somehow.
  7. Visit old wisdom and build on that.  There is nothing new under the sun, but your lens is unique and important.
  8. You’re allowed ten mistakes a day. Once you allow yourself that, you’ll see that you were never made to be perfect and that perfect was never possible to begin with. (my therapist)
  9. Doors will open.  Look for them.  Walk through them.
  10. Dark chocolate > milk chocolate and oat milk > milk
  11. If your beliefs (political, spiritual, cultural, etc.) have not shifted since childhood and you plan to keep this same set of beliefs until your death, you’re probably doing it wrong.  Also, you are probably wrong about something that today you believe wholeheartedly. It’s okay. We are made to learn and grow with time.
  12. LOST is the best television finale of all time. (I said what I said.)
  13. You may not be able to find a ‘reason’ for everything that happens, but in time you may find meaning and practical Grace.
  14. Breathe on purpose. Stretch on purpose.
  15. Growth and strength come speck by speck, so be patient with yourself. (Deb, my yoga teacher)
  16. Good food and learning to make and appreciate it is a form of art.
  17. Learn to laugh at yourself.
  18. Learn to enjoy your own company.  You’re wonderful!
  19. Give your children’s lives to them (and to God and Mary) sooner than you think you must.
  20. Any time and effort you put into moving your body will benefit your body, mind and spirit by at least tenfold.
  21. God is much bigger than any box we’d put Him/Her in.
  22. Do something that scares you, ambition-wise, but not scary like movies or haunted houses.  Life is too short to pay money to be terrified.
  23. We really do not deserve dogs.
  24. Look up.
  25. If you knew the details of any person’s life, it would make a movie you could not turn away from, a book you could not put down.
  26. No amount of time spent reading a book or making music with a child is wasted.  These are soul deposits that bear fruit throughout a lifetime.
  27. Strive to live beyond binary and tribal thinking.  It’s worth the discomfort.
  28. No one knows how much you love or esteem them unless you tell them, so tell them.
  29. You were created with intention. You are capable of way more than you think.
  30. No one thinks about you as much as you think they do. 
  31. That straightener/hairdryer combo is a miracle appliance.
  32. Every night: retinol & moisturizer. Every morning: vitamin c serum & moisturizer with sunscreen.
  33. Sometimes it just will not make sense. It is not your job to make it make sense.
  34. Read/listen to things with which you don’t agree sometimes.
  35. A rough day can often be made better by gratitude, generosity, and/or sleep. Things do look different in the morning.
  36. Prioritize your peace.
  37. Treat people how you want to be treated.  Tip well.
  38. Life really does go faster with time.  Use your time well.
  39. Time sitting across any table from a friend is holy.  So is belly laughter or the kind of laughter which makes no sound, but which leads to tears streaming down your face.  Tears are also holy.  Spend more time doing all of these things. 
  40. This too shall pass. (Mom)
  41. Find out who you are apart from your roles, relationships, and titles.
  42. You leave a piece of yourself in every person with whom you interact, and they leave a piece of themselves with you. 
  43. God will meet you where you are, as you are. Be open.
  44. Life is a journey of surrendering what you thought was ‘supposed’ to happen and receiving with gratitude what is.
  45. There is no ‘supposed to’.
  46. How someone behaves is much more about them than about you.  It’s all about them.
  47. Your past informs your reaction to the present, so make every effort to understand it.
  48. Let things go, but only after you’ve processed them.  Letting things go without processing is avoidance and that stuff will always come back to haunt you in some way.
  49. Be a good friend.  Surround yourself with good people.
  50. You deserve good things. You are enough.

4 responses to “50 Things I’ve Learned Before 50”

  1. Melina Balboni Avatar
    Melina Balboni

    Oh thank you so much Kerry for these wonderful reminders of life. So thoughtful, profound, real and funny. There is magic in your pen…..keep it coming!

    1. kcampbell116 Avatar

      Thanks so much, Melina!

  2. Cathy Avatar

    This is absolutely terrific. Thank you

    1. kcampbell116 Avatar

      Thank you, Cathy!

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